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Why Won't You Apologize?
- Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts
- Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
- Length: 4 hrs and 36 mins
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Why Won't You Apologize?
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Publisher's Summary
Renowned psychologist and best-selling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language - I'm sorry - and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.
Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies - and why some people won't give them - for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Listeners will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful "I'm sorry" and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury.
Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party - the one who has been hurt by someone who won't apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.
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- Karan
- 19-12-2018
Necessary.
This book is so beautiful. It provides practical tips on how to apologise correctly and demonstrates the importance and complexities of an apology. It has helped me deal with my pridefulness and become a much more empathetic person, I now can easily take accountability for my actions, listen to the people I have hurt and apologise wholeheartedly so we can move to heal the relationship.
I've recommended this book to almost everyone as I believe even the best of us have issues with apologising at times. It is a necessary read and I wish I had stumbled on this book sooner.
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- Carol
- 30-08-2017
Very helpful book
Really valued the book, its contents and the manner in which it is presented by the author.
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- Ivonne
- 15-02-2020
Excellent
I learnt so much from it, whether in the receiving end or not great book
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- malean Keogh
- 25-09-2021
Great
Great insight on how to repair connections with the right apologies and how to move on without them.
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- Anonymous User
- 29-05-2020
Life changing
Dr. Lerner writes in an open accessible way. There is so much wisdom here I know this is a book I will revisit many times. This book has helped me take a more compassionate perspective toward an unapologetic relative. Thank you for this.
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- Mr
- 30-12-2017
excellent resource .
very insightful and practical. Particularily for anyone going through relationship challenges that need genuine healing.
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- Alex
- 21-10-2021
Nuanced and insightful
My praise for this book comes without qualification, as it powerfully does exactly what it set out to do. The examples are impeccably chosen and guidance, as it should be from such a highly regarded professional, is non judgemental, inclusive and empowering. Enough disclosure to create a trust with the reader, but not so much as to privilege her voice over yours.
However, I would suggest engaging with it within a wider context than as a stand alone book. For example, Dr Lerner talks about shame, guilt and vulnerability, but if she unpacked those fully then she would not have been able to remain focused on apology. So reading/listening to this alongside the work of Brene Brown would help you expand your understanding. In a family context adding the work of someone like Alfie Kohn would add depth to that specific context.
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- Linda Sim
- 07-09-2022
A great primer
For anyone looking to understand apologies better and the subtle feelings and undercurrents that can lurk behind disagreements. The text was narrated well.
The only thing lacking for me is I wanted more! This felt like part one of a fantastic series.
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- Leslie Jones
- 28-07-2023
A guide to have a peaceful life.
Eye opener. Realizing everyone's feelings. Drawn me to what is best to do in the most important chapter of my life... Motherhood.
Stories of the clients were so relatable. Very enlightening.
The voice of the narrator made me want to listen again and again. And gave me the drive to do what's asked to do. It captivated me. I wish all of Dr. H. Lerner's audio book were narrated by Cassandra Campbell.
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