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The Will to Change

Men, Masculinity, and Love

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The Will to Change

By: bell hooks
Narrated by: Janina Edwards
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Everyone needs to love and be loved - even men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways that patriarchal culture keeps them from knowing themselves, from being in touch with their feelings, from loving. In The Will to Change, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are - whatever their age, marital status, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.

But toxic masculinity punishes those fundamental emotions, and it’s so deeply ingrained in our society that it’s hard for men to not comply - but hooks wants to help change that.

With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves - and lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women. A brave and astonishing work, The Will to Change is designed to help men reclaim the best part of themselves.

©2003 Gloria Watkins (P)2020 Simon & Schuster Audio
Anthropology Gender Studies Political Science

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a well credited author.

bell hooks is a well credited author who has study her field for many years. she includes her personal experience like a good author should in modesty. another good read is Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Lundy Bancroft - was written by a man, but both have personal experience and scientific bases. I find bell hook book to be balanced and offer a solution for the society to change. lundy bancroft is to hold violent men more accountable,

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An important message

I loved the message but did find it repetitive at times. If hooks was the prime minister of this country I would go to sleep feeling very reassured.

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exceptionally effective

clearly drills the point to the reader and invites the reader to self reflect upon their own biases.

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everyone should listen

great speaking voice. all men and all women supporting men should read this. valuable information

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Great read for all men

Really great read for all men, there are soo many unconscious biases we hold that I didn’t even recognise til I heard this. Some of them are hard to hear and stomach, but they’re right and necessary
Will definitely be listening again

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Confabulation at its best

I made a concerted effort to take on board the ideas and sentiments of the author but found myself clashing time and time again not just with her opinion, but with the lack of evidence and over-generalisations.
I appreciate and sympathise with the authors experience and don't wish to minimise or invalidate her thoughts or feelings. To the extent that what she lays out as doctrinal truth is anything resembling reality, I'm all for men and woman being equally valued, (if fundamentally different and wonderful beings) and repairing the status quo, but I was disappointed in what I had hoped would be a book that could help me understand this world view and patriarchy.

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not balanced

one woman's thoughts on how things should be (in her ideal world) and her perception of what the mistakes were that got us here. Nothing new or helpful, just more suggestions of over adjustments and boundary blurring- Woke Nonsense.

Men need other good male mentors, not more feminist trying to control them like the devouring mother archetype.

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