Relationships and Passion

I listened to this because I am trying to be an active and knowledgeable LGBTI+ Ally but what I actually got from this was much more. I gained some insight into hardships gay men face that I don't but I also gained insight into myself. I don't think any person could listen to this and not be struck by how similar our problems are no matter how we identify and honestly I look around me and see so many others struggling with their journey to find their authentic selves. Worth a listen for sure.

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Finally, questions answered..

Growing up in the 2000’s without many queer role models was tough.. This book answered so many questions I had about why I am the way I am, and asked tough questions of me that I thought deeply about.
Years later, the world can still be quite homophobic but at least I’m ok enough with being myself and absolutely living as authentically as I can.
More books like this are needed and a wider conversation needs to continue.

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An incredible read

I found this book to be a helpful roadmap for self actualisation as a gay man. It gave me insights into my own experiences and observations of gay culture and provided me with a sense of hope as well as understanding for how to live my life to the fullest. I have been recommending this book to all of my gay friends!

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Inspiring

What an incredible book, every gay man should read or listen to this at least once. Thank you Dr Alan for your help in giving language to the experiences of gay life.

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Incredible

If I could give this book 100 stars I would. It is a must read for every gay man, their friends and families. Life changing.

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Stage 2 going on 3 soon I hope

This book changed my life. I was recommended this book by my partner who constantly quotes it and used to drive me crazy with the quotes. Now I see why. Alan is incredibly honest and genuine, every word he wrote is very relatable. I’ll be honest in the beginning it was a bit hard to swallow, but when I looked back I placed the real me into this book and learned it’s not wrong but just things that are blocking me from being happy. It is possible to be happy, and this book did not only help with that but inspired me to spread it.

I would recommend this book to any gay boy, or family member or friend of a gay boy. It doesn’t matter if you are gay or straight this book will open your eyes to the world day boys grow up in. The struggle is real. And that’s the t.

Thank you Alan.

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a gay man's must read

emotional, self relatable at times, definitely makes you think. can be a bit reductant as its point out everything comes out of shame, but still a great book!

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It is a gift for the gay man

This will resonate with most gay men, particularly of my generation (I was born in the 60’s) but for many others as well.
It was a gift for me and I will be forever grateful.

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Must read for Gay Men

Amazing book on gay men emotional stages and growth. If you ever wondered why we, gay men, are the way we are, there are some good insights here.

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A must read

This is one of the most important books I have ever read (or listened to). I’m a gay man and I have never felt my frustrations, struggles and pain to be so well understood and articulated as they are by this author. It is a brief but detailed tour through the psyche of gay men, into the core of shame, its roots and its impacts, and with love and great dignity, it gently lights the way out. I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t benefit from reading this, even those who will surely complain about its generalisations. It unravelled me and has taught me how to put myself back together, in my own vision.

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