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The Origins of You

How to Break Free from the Family Patterns that Shape Us

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The Origins of You

By: Vienna Pharaon
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From licensed therapist and popular Instagram relationship expert Vienna Pharaon comes a profound guide to understanding and overcoming wounds from your family of origin - the foundation of how we relate to others, ourselves, and the world around us.

None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don't serve us - and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn't have to be that way, says licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better with the right tools.

In The Origins of You, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process to help us understand our family of origin - the family and framework we grew up within - and examine what worked (and didn't) in that system. Certain dysfunctions (or "wounds") in that family of origin will manifest in our adult life in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But when armed with the knowledge about our past, we can rewire our programming to meaningfully improve our relationships and our lives.

It doesn't matter whether you've been in therapy for decades, or whether therapy isn't for you. It doesn't matter if you have plenty of memories from childhood, or struggle to remember anything at all. All that matters is your willingness to look inside yourself, and your determination to find a new way forward. Complete with guided introspection, personal experiences, client stories, frameworks for having difficult conversations, and worksheets to complement each chapter, The Origins of You will teach you how your family can both build you up and break you down - and how you can heal yourself for good.

©2023 Vienna Pharaon (P)2023 Hachette Audio
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"The Origins of You offers us a promise: our family of origin, no matter how damaged it might have been, does not determine our destiny. With empathy and wisdom, Vienna Pharaon explains how our past creates our patterns - patterns we're still living out today - and how we can shift those habits to create a new, healthier path for ourselves. Vienna's book is a gift (Nedra Glover Tawwab, bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace)

"Wow! A book that not only clearly guides one's journey towards self-understanding and healing, but disarms you and speaks directly to your soul. This book is filled with invaluable information interwoven in powerful, compassion-filled stories that help shift perspectives. If you are ready to break patterns, face your wounds, and work towards healthy relationships - Vienna's words are it." (Sara Kuburic, existential therapist, author, and creator of @Millennial.Therapist)

"The Origins of You is a powerful guide to know ourselves and change our relationships. Vienna has provided the knowledge we need to deeply improve our lives. This book is for anyone who is serious about personal growth and is ready for a big change." (Yung Pueblo, author of Clarity and Connection)

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Insightful and profound

I found it liberating, deep and life changing. I would recommend everyone to dive deep into yourself and see how you come on the other side… if you’re ready!

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This is an absolute necessity

This book is a very important step in my journey of my healing within. The narrator is wonderful as she is the author and can give comfort when talking around the hard/emotional points during the chapters. If you're struggling with "why do I keep doing that" or "why does my partner keep doing this". reading this book and understanding yourself a little more or even understanding your partner a little more will help immensely.
Be kind, have Gratitude and carry an open mind.

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Just what I needed

A brilliant look under the hood of how our past affects how we show up in the present and how to work on change.
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Brilliant

I purchased on Audible yesterday. I'm getting so much out of it. thank you 🙏

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Narrators monotone voice is incredibly hard to listen to. Author is seriously to wordy. I understand the subject and the intent that the Author has in writing this, but disagree with authors perspectives. this book just makes excuses for people who cant succeed. Excuses aren't reasons.

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