Resonant

I’ve never gone through such a long book so quickly. Lots of food for thought, the juxtaposition of personal stories and scientific research really made a great balance of content. Not everything resonated but the parts that did felt intensely relevant. This book is an excellent resource and I would definitely recommend it to those ready and willing to read it and utilise the tools provided.

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Amazing

Randye has the most soothing voice, delivering some amazing messages of hope and methods for growth. A must listen for anyone suffering emotionally.

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Very helpful

This book helped me understand myself so much. The past wounds, the triggers that have reopened those wounds, the mistakes I’ve made in the past, etc. The exercises have been designed to really dig deep to help heal, and I now feel so much more equipped to let go and focus on a better future. The content of this book is amazing, once you get used to (or can overlook) the narrators voice/tone.

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Incredible!

What a fantastic and relevant book. The words and narrator were as if she was speaking to me. I needed to hear everything that was said and I resonated with every single word. I would recommend think book to anyone and everyone, I am sure we ALL have abandonment fear inside of us, no matter how big or small, this book is a life changer.

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Explains extreme responses to breakups

I feel like this is written for people having a very extreme reaction to a breakup. While I appreciate that this happens sometimes, I felt very uncomfortable about her approach because it feels like she rationalises really extreme behaviour (including rage and stalking towards an ex). There isn’t much here for more tender forms of grief that are totally normal to feel after a breakup. Nothing also about acknowledging the exes humanity, it’s totally self referential. This is why avoidants are scared.

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Helpful and Useful

I think this book aptly summarises and explains abandonment and there are lots of good examples in it. I particularly agreed with the explanation linking current experiences to past losses. It gives positive hopeful expectation to the reader that they can recover.

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5 stars

great book, very transformative! didn't love the narrator but really enjoyed the content! I look forward to integrating the lessons into my everyday life

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Extremely In-depth

The author delves into her own story in relation to abandonment and the feeling/emotions associated with her journey. As a psychologist, she provides both her own personal narrative accompanied with scientific research and explanations behind reactions, etc, that we all may experience.

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what an enlightening journey.. thank you

This book helped me greatly to identify what had been going on in my life. I gained a deeper understanding of self. I am super grateful.

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FIND A BETTER BOOK!

My initial impression of this book was that the author has hints of resentment, projecting blame onto others rather than owning up to their behavior.

The exercises are pathological! They encourage the problem rather than focusing on the positive outcome.

There is no personal empowerment or authentic self-healing focused content here. There is a lot of professional jargon and statistics etc but the author focuses on her brand for EVERYTHING as if it is the only way or some kind of manual unique to her. It comes across as very superficial / fake and insincere.

If you want to justify why your stuck, and stay stuck read this.

Otherwise find a book focused on heart-centered therapy.

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