The Imperfects

By: Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Summary

  • We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
    2025 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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  • Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat
    Feb 23 2025

    Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025.

    In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?”

    He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch.

    Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy. Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again.

    Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation.

    If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi

    💿 Things to listen to:

    • Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - https://apple.co/432zLQP
    • The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - https://apple.co/4gNrgvV

    Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfects

    If you would like to receive a weekly Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter, where you can answer this question yourself, click subscribe on our website www.theimperfects.com.au

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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  • Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!
    Feb 20 2025

    It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).

    That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country!

    It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!

    We would love and adore to see you there!

    🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj

    If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8

    If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – www.patreon.com/theimperfects

    🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned

    • Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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  • Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top
    Feb 16 2025

    Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.

    Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?

    In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.

    So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!

    Sweet dreams x

    If you would like to watch this full video on YouTub, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4htdJLj

    If you’d like to subscribe to our Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, sign up here: Patreon.com/theimperfects

    🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode:

    • Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
    • Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd

    💻 Things to check out:

    • Salutegenics Psychology - https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG
    • Resilience First Aid - https://bit.ly/40WtaEP
    • Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com
    • Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF

    🎧 Things to listen to:

    • Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv

    📖 Things to read:

    • Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - https://bit.ly/3COHNSv
    • Michael Mosley’s Research - https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC
    • Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - https://bit.ly/3CB53n5

    📺 Things to watch:

    • Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G
    • Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J
    • Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs

    💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs:

    *please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist

    • Alfred Health - https://bit.ly/42SKw80
    • Monash Health - https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM
    • Epworth Sleep Centre - https://bit.ly/4hzylBI
    • Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS
    • The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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amazing perspective we all need to take on

absolutely loved this episode.
thank you thank you thank you
such a great view and backed by science.
one more embrace

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Ben Crowe is great value 🤚

I got so much out of this 2-part podcast. All the usual good humoured banter and honest vulnerability from Hugh, Josh and Ryan and very useful insights and tools from Ben - so good I had to take notes 🤚Thank you

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Love it so so much!!!

super helpful for understanding myself and the people I'm surrounded by in everyday life situations 🤩 seriously INCREDIBLE!!!

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My favourite podcast

Not often you find something so honest and relatable that can have you crying, crying with laughter and pondering your thoughts all in the same minute. I tell everyone about The Imperfects and EVERYONE I’ve told have fallen in love too.

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yeeewwww

amazing stuff boys very well done and also very compelling love your work lads

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I always look forward to Mondays

I always look forward to Mondays when the next podcast drops. Content is always relatable and delivered in such a way how can people not be more comfortable in talking about their vulnerabilities 🤩

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My favourite podcast

Brilliant stories. So helpful. I love the vulnerabilitea house and hearing Dr Em revisiting past episodes. I am so glad I found this podcast.

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amazing, well worth a listen

so so so good, worth a listen, amazing story, grant has been thru so much

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