Great insight but no advice how to use the info

I listened to this awhile ago now but Ross Rosenberg is definitely well versed in the subject of the codependent - narc relationship. This book gave some good insights and I really found it helpful to see the dynamic set on a scale as he put it. And throughout the book, I was eagerly waiting to hear his advice on what to do if you have experienced a lot of what was discussed but unfortunately - there was nothing! I was so disappointed. From what I had heard in his youtube videos and social media, this book was going to give the help to codependents that we need. But instead, it was just an explanation of what we go through and why... I wanted solutions. So I think I've been more than fair in giving this book 4 stars given the expectations, and I would've definitely given 5 if I was given advice what to "do" with all this information!

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Listening to this while getting abused

Listening to gaslighting definition and narcissist rage while getting abused in real-time was an experience to treasure. Im glad to be on the path to self love. This was an eye-opening shocking revelation for me...finally getting my butt into action!

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An enlightening necessary catalyst for change!!

What a wonderful book which explains so much of my life & the many questions of relationships!
I would highly recommend this book for anyone wondering why none of their relationships have ever been easy....

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Oh my!....my eyes are now open

This book is amazing.
Everyone should be educated with the valuable life information in this book.
I now can see where before I was blind and living with drama.
Now I understand.
Thank you Ross what a brilliant book.
Trauma is subtle but unhelpful strategies can rule your life.
I am so happy to have read this book.
I am free.

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My Favourite Book!

Ross Rosenberg is a genius! This book is one of my favourite books! If you're interested in psychology or human behaviour this book will strike your fancy. Especially if you are intrigued in how humans tick and why nice people are attracted to the "bad boy/girl". I'm particularly interested in the phenomenon of codependency and narcissism which Ross articulates perfectly. I had many lightbulb moments after listening to this book. Highly recommend.

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Insightful and detailed

I’m a bit wary of all the talk about narcissism these days but I did find this one thoughtful and useful. Worth a listen/read if you’re looking for insight into aggressive family dynamics continuing into adulthood, or the roots of highly unequal or manipulative behaviour in romantic relationships. The focus is more on romantic and sexual relationships.

The narrator’s voice was cocky and inappropriately chirpy for a book on trauma and abuse, his words were over pronounced like a game show host. I wish audible would take more care with narration.

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Very obnoxious

My perception of this book is that it was written as a trophy by the author to himself. It is geared to other therapists almost as a boast or product of pride. I found it very annoying to listen to it as I seeking to gain more personal insight - I needed it to be more about me rather than him (the author). 10% is good as a self help diagnosis. The rest is is just me me me talk. I suffered through the entire book as a challenge to see how self absorbed the author was, hoping it would improve, and to see how many times he said the words me or I. Tag- you’re in!

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