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The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide

Making It Work in Friendship, Love, and Sex

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The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide

By: Cody Daigle-Orians
Narrated by: Cody Daigle-Orians
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Should I be upfront with someone I'm interested in that I'm ace or aro?
How do I get people to respect my boundaries around intimacy?
What if I don't want intimacy at all?
Is it selfish to pursue a relationship if I don't want romance?
These questions are not only a source of deep anxiety and frustration for ace and aro people - but limit the heights that ace and aro folks believe they can reach for in their lives. These questions make us believe that we should settle for less, when in fact we all deserve more.
Whether we're talking about friendships, romantic relationships, casual dates or casual intimate partners, this guide will help you not only live authentically in your ace and aro identity, but joyfully share it with others.©2025 Cody Daigle-Orians (P)2025 Hodder & Stoughton Limited
Gender Studies Love, Dating & Attraction Personal Success

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By drilling into to the basics of what actually makes up a healthy relationship, this radically inclusive and practical guide dives headfirst into the questions we are so often afraid to ask: can I be ace and find love without compromising myself? Can I build a relationship that suits me? Am I deserving of happiness? With love and affirmation, Cody guides the reader to an answer: a resounding, unapologetic YES! (Eris Young, author of They/Them/Their and Ace Voices)
The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide is a comprehensive beginning for asexual and aromantic seekers to develop better relationships. Regardless of whether you're troubleshooting a current relationship or you're just beginning your aspec journey and don't know how to approach relationships, this guide will examine and deconstruct harmful norms, teach you to value and defend your boundaries and needs, and open your mind to the incredible variety of relationship options that are very much available to people like us. An excellent starting point for how to think about partnership from an ace/aro perspective (Julie Sondra Decker)
Buy this book! If I had a time machine, this would be one of the books I'd deliver to my younger self. Cody Daigle-Orians has crafted an invaluable resource for navigating the pitfalls of normative relationships and intimacy. (Jeffrey Marsh bestselling, Oprah and Apple Books-honored author of 'Take Your Own Advice’)
A must-read relationship guide offering practical advice, personal insights, and essential tools for the aspec community and beyond. (School Library Journal)
An empowering and important tool. (Kirkus Reviews)
This groundbreaking guide is a must-read for anyone looking to redefine their understanding of relationships, love, and intimacy. Beyond its primary focus on aromantic and asexual individuals, the book offers a revolutionary perspective on what constitutes a fulfilling connection. (NetGalley Reviewer)
"The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide by Cody Daigle-Orians is the book I wish I'd had growing up. (NetGalley Reviewer)

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