FMS does not exist…….

False Memory Syndrome does not exist. It is merely a made up excuse that abusers can use to avoid justice being served, admission of their abuses and to selfishly save their own face and reputation so they can continue to harm others and avoid any realisation of the damage they create and what horrible people they are.
There have been multiple studies that disprove FMS in recent times.
Children do not make up tales of being abused and It’s something that must be experienced to know all about.
What child would accuse a loving and supportive parent of such things if it wasn’t true? What would their motivation be?
There have also been studies into the so called powers of suggestion where multiple people have been tested by giving them suggestions to believe. This has also been proven rather doubtful.
It is cruel and horrific enough to have endured child abuse, and it is also cruel that they make up such rubbish to try and prove victims wrong and abusers (falsely) innocent. It not only robs justice and aiding survivors to recall more details important to winning a court case (such as dates they demand that they think should be recalled from childhood), but also greatly hampers with any healing the survivor may wish to try and achieve for themselves.
It is extremely rare for a child sex abuser to ever admit they have sexually abused a child.
If the mother in this story is innocent she wouldn’t be so hell bent on trying to prove her innocence.
She is clearly feeling very threatened by the truth to have written such a very lengthy letter to the daughter in which she tries her best to manipulate and change her daughters beliefs by suggestion, however memories of pain, hurt and confusion can not be erased by suggestion alone.
The mother obviously feels people will readily believe she is a child sex abuser, and this is because she knows full well what she did.
There are abusers in positions of trust with the best of reputations who are fully confident that no one will believe they are abusers and these types do not feel threatened as easily as this mother does.
The mother wants an apology so she can stop stressing out about her real persona as a child abuser being exposed publicly and she knows very well people will believe it, for she knows she is the type who abuses children.
The mother feigns concern and care about her daughter suffering from FMS and yet in the same letter repeatedly threatens her daughter with family rifts because she knows how much family means to her daughter. This is her last resort pitch at trying to control her daughter and save her own face.
I applaud the author for her bravery writing this book and trying to come to terms with her memories of the truth. Many parts would had been very hard to write about.
It shows what strength she has gained later in life and that is admirable. I hope her strength continues to grow and she realises those who care and believe her matter most and those who don’t are not worth caring about.

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