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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

By: Ramani Durvasula PhD
Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula PhD
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Do you feel like you are talking and talking, and your partner is never listening?

Do you feel like you keep saying the same thing over and over again?

Does your partner make promises, only to break or betray your trust repeatedly?

Is your partner controlling or just plain mean?

Have you read every relationship book out there, practiced your communication skills, and still feel unheard or neglected?

Are you done with second chances?

Should you stay or should you go?

We live in a world of romance and rescue - where everyone believes love will conquer all, and the more we put up with, the more loving we are being. It doesn't work that way. Sometimes we choose mean people, and before long we are in so deep, we don't know whether we are coming or going. One day you want to fight harder, and the next day you are ready to pack it in, and the next day you want to fight harder.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is a survival manual, a guidebook, and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.

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Simply incredible!

Wow, such an insightful book, thank you so much Dr Ramani Durvasula for shining light on a relationship topic I have struggled to understand my entire adult life. A life changer!

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Excellent book with great ideas on how to manage

This book has taught me so much about what has been happening in relationships like this and how ppl can actually work through staying or going. It is very insightful engaging and takes you on a journey that truly helps you to see how these dynamics manifest in the day today and year to year existence of being in one of these relationships. Doctor Ramani is an excellent speaker, researcher, clinician, and reader which makes this book so powerful but easy to engage with.

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Love it!

Great, informative book, extremely helpful to me. ❤️ Dr Durvasala - and her great narration!

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Exceptional book!

Ramani got straight to the point about narcissim and how it can have an effect on others.
I learnt so much from listening to her book.

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It was like she was living my life. I had many Ahhhhh moments, many tears and “Yes” moments. I didn’t feel alone. I left…. now to continue to heal. ❤️❤️❤️

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Worth the time spent listening

Enjoyed the content, narration was well paced and easy to listen too.
I found this helpful to listen too after I had already left a toxic relationship but there is a section on how to cope if you stay but I just skipped it.

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grateful 🙏❤

thank you for all your hard work and effort into this topic. it sheds the light on the dark.

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Excellent book, highly recommended!

Dr Ramani delivers her wealth of experience and guidance through this engaging, thorough, and informative book. As a psychologist myself, i highly recommend this book to anyone in an unhealthy relationship or anyone getting into a relationship. You will not be disappointed.

There are some minor discrepancies in the audio recording of the book, and sometimes you have to adjust the volume.

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Outstanding Overview Of Narcissistic Relationships

Fantastic overview of Narcissism, narcissistic relationships and the harm they cause. Well researched with in-depth and wide ranging research references. The book is very well written, engaging and accessible. It clarifies the strategies, methods and patterns used by narcissistic people. It also highlights the harm and impact those patterns and behaviours have on those in relationships with highly narcissistic people.

The author is honest, straightforward and frank about the limitations of relationships with narcissists, and outlines exactly what someone needs to do if they choose to remain in a significant relationship with a narcissistic person.

It also covers what you need to do to keep yourself safe and recover from a narcissistic relationship and narcissistic abuse, with understanding, compassion and validation.

This book also places narcissism in the context of our current culture in the west, with our emphasis on human value being measured by what we have, our achievements and our status and position in society, rather than by who we are and how we treat others in relationships.

The connection between the age of social media as a stage for narcissistic performance and the exponential increase in narcissism is also made. An outstanding book in the field, covering the psychological, personal, societal and cultural factors contributing to the harmful and growing rise of a modern day epidemic of narcissism.

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Wise Doctor Ramani

With her trademark extensive knowledge on the subject of narcissists and their behaviour in relationships , Dr Ramani takes a deep dive into the experience of relating to and recovering from relationships with toxic individuals. She ably demonstrates her understanding of the trauma bonding that takes place in such relationships. She never preaches or prescribes easy solutions to a complex problem but rather offers sound strategies and choices for the survivors of such relationships whether or not they remain in the relationship . This book is compassionate and empowering and I highly recommend it to all who have found themselves in such a relationship or care about loved ones who have , at whatever their stage of the journey.

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