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  • Selfless

  • The Social Creation of “You”
  • By: Brian Lowery
  • Narrated by: Aaron Goodson
  • Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins
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By: Brian Lowery
Narrated by: Aaron Goodson
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Social psychologist and Stanford professor Brian Lowery presents a provocative, powerful theory of identity, arguing that there is no essential "self"—our selves are social creations of those with whom we interact—exploring what that means for who we can be and who we allow others to be.

There’s nothing we spend more time with, but understand less, than ourselves. You’ve been with yourself every waking moment of your life. But who—or, rather, what—are you? In Selfless, Brian Lowery argues for the radical idea that the “self” as we know it—that “voice in your head”—is a social construct, created in our relationships and social interactions. We are unique because our individual pattern of relationships is unique. We change because our relationships change. Your self isn’t just you, it’s all around you.

Lowery uses this research-driven perspective of selfhood to explore questions of inequity, race, gender, politics, and power structures, transforming our perceptions of how the world is and how it could be. His theory offers insight into how powerful people manage their environment in sophisticated, often unconscious, ways to maintain the status quo; explains our competing drives for deep social connection and personal freedom; and answers profound, personal questions such as: Why has my sense of self evolved over time? Why do I sometimes stop short of changes that I want to make in life?

In Selfless, Lowery persuasively breaks down common assumptions and beliefs; his insights are humbling. Despite what many may think, we aren’t islands unto ourselves; we are the creation of the many hands that touch us. We don’t just exist in communities, we are created and shaped by them. Our highs and lows are not only our own but belong to others as well. By recognizing that we are products of relationships—from fleeting transactions to deep associations—we shatter the myth of individualism and free ourselves to make our lives and the world accordingly.

©2023 Brian Lowery (P)2023 HarperCollins Publishers

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Brian Lowrey, in his compelling work "Selfless," navigates the profound themes of self-identity, liberty, existential significance, and the notion of life beyond death, topics that have long intrigued philosophers and spiritual scholars. Lowrey ventures through these subjects with a fresh perspective, utilizing the prism of social psychology. Contrary to traditional spiritual discourses that advocate for detachment, he posits that it is through social attachment that one delineates the self, derives meaning, experiences a sense of freedom, and perhaps even perceives a semblance of life post-mortem. "Selfless" is a catalyst for introspection, urging readers to approach each interaction and relationship with mindfulness and deliberation. His arguments are both intellectually stimulating and motivational, encouraging a conscious reflection on the interconnectedness of self and society.

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