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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)
- Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
- Narrated by: Lauren Fortgang
- Length: 10 hrs and 44 mins
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Publisher's Summary
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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- Rachel
- 17-06-2019
Great introduction to the subject
I had seen this book a number of times before I decided to give it a go and I am glad that I did. I wasn’t particularly interested in shame and a few of the reviews said that the subject matter was heavy going so it took me a while to decide to try it, but I’m glad I did. I really enjoyed this. I thought it was more practical than the other Brene Brown book I have read. It has inspired me to think differently about my own shame perspective.
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- Mrs
- 20-10-2023
I really enjoyed this book
Was so worth a listen … very interesting perspective on a subject that should be discussed more but is almost more taboo than sex!
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- benni_2000
- 17-11-2023
Thought provoking
Thought provoking.
May give a clearer understanding, helping to open up conversation and healing with yourself and your loved ones.
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- Rebecca Hammo
- 31-03-2020
Didn’t love the narration!
Wouldn’t have purchased if it had of noticed that Brene Brown wasn’t narrating her book. Buy the hard copy!!!
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- Debi
- 11-06-2021
What a wonderful book
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. There were lots of aha moments.
My only issue with the audio book was that it was not read my Brene herself. I think it would have been more impactful as an audio, if I could hear the passion and right tempo in which it was written.
I’m soo glad to have stumbled across Brene and her work. I’m looking forward to more.
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- Lesley
- 24-06-2017
A fantastic resource for women dealing with shame.
This book helps women to realise the different types of shame that we suffer from on a daily basis. And how to start dealing with it.
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- karen
- 18-05-2016
what I needed and wanted to hear 15 years ago
If you could sum up I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) in three words, what would they be?
Deep compassionate insightful
What was one of the most memorable moments of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)?
That men go through shame just as much as women do.
Which scene did you most enjoy?
The description of what listening isn't and how empathy looks like.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
yes
Any additional comments?
Can't wait to listen to the next one.
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- Amazon Customer
- 14-10-2019
Brilliant book.
Deeply though provoking read. Worth it for all to read, highly recommended. Would be better if narrated by Brene herself
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- Debbie Goh
- 02-09-2019
Gained a new perspective!
As someone with a heightened sense of self-awareness, I am aware that I am very hard on myself, and in turn impose these standards onto others. I had thought that the solution is to be kinder towards others, but Bene has offered a perspective: to be kinder to oneself first. Examples are very relatable to and points to common day to day conversations and topics.
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- Linda Murie
- 15-05-2019
eye opening
If you are ready to face yourself, this book is very eye opening and life changing
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