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How to Not Die Alone

The Surprising Science of Finding Love

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How to Not Die Alone

By: Logan Ury
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'A definitive guide for a generation navigating the murky waters of modern love' Esther Perel

'A "must read" for hopeless and hopeful romantics alike' Daniel Gilbert

A funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, "Why has everyone found love except me?" You're not the only one. Great relationships don't just appear in our lives - they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including who to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how.

This book focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You'll learn:

- What's holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
- What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn't)
- How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
- How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
- How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
- Why "the spark" is a myth (but you'll find love anyway)

This data-driven, step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Logan Ury (P)2021 Hachette Audio UK Human Sexuality Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Funny Dream

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Why have you not found love? Logan Ury's HOW TO NOT DIE ALONE speaks to truths that your friends won't tell you. With a unique voice that offers clarity, action, and results, Ury's book promises to be a definitive guide for a generation navigating the murky waters of modern love (Esther Perel, bestselling author of MATING IN CAPTIVITY and THE STATE OF AFFAIRS and host of the podcast 'Where Should We Begin?')
Insightful and delightful, HOW TO NOT DIE ALONE is a 'must read' for hopeless and hopeful romantics alike - and for anyone who still believes that true love is possible (Daniel Gilbert, Edgar Pierce Professor of Psychology at Harvard University and New York Times bestselling author of STUMBLING ON HAPPINESS)
In HOW TO NOT DIE ALONE, dating coach Logan Ury compiles the research on what trips people up when looking for love and lays it all out in a simple-to-use guide. If you need a perspective shift, this is a book you'll want to keep on hand as you navigate the modern dating terrain (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE)
HOW TO NOT DIE ALONE is a must-read for millennials navigating any stage of their relationship. The advice is clear, researched-based, and actually easy to follow. It's the perfect book for anyone who wants to up their dating game (Jordana Abraham, co-founder of Betches Media and Host of the 'U Up?' podcast)
This is an eye-opening book. Based on the best that social science has to offer, and written in an easy-to-understand style, full of useful exercises and checklists, Logan Ury has provided a guide that will help you avoid many of the traps people face in finding and keeping romantic relationships in today's world. And as a bonus, reading this book will surely help you make other big decisions in life that have nothing to do with romance (Barry Schwartz, Visiting Professor at the Haas School of Business, U.C. Berkeley, and author of THE PARADOX OF CHOICE)
This book wisely reminds us that finding and holding on to love is not a mysterious divinely apportioned gift, it's a skill that can be taught and learnt by us all. Past failure does not have to be any indicator of future success-with this compelling book in hand (Alain de Botton, author of THE COURSE OF LOVE)
Logan Ury's practical, no-nonsense approach to dating is a masterclass in behavioral science. It's also warm, funny, and full of heart. HOW TO NOT DIE ALONE is an essential guide to debunking the myths of modern romance and finding a relationship that's truly worth investing in (Mandy Len Catron, author of HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH ANYONE: A MEMOIR IN ESSAYS)
Ury has given all of us a host of excellent suggestions (and scientific information) on how to find, make, build and sustain a romantic, sexy and successful partnership (Helen Fisher, author of THE ANATOMY OF LOVE and Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute)

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This book is essential reading in my opinion. Opened my eyes to a lot of things and I wish I had this information years ago.

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Very impressed with this Book.

this book was probably written for younger people, but I got a lot out of it, and would highly recommend. great common sense suggestions, and different perspectives on ways to approach relationships. well worth the listen. 5 stars.

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Inspired to make moves

Informative , I love doing the reflection activity helps me to be self aware and understand what should I look for quality partner

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Recommended

Practical information and great advice on this book.
Well narrated and covered many interesting and important aspects of relationships.

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Stuff you need to hear

If you’re dating and been single a while this is a real eye opener and made me think of things differently

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Great book - Excellent advice

I absolutely loved this book. Wish I’d been able to read this many years ago, and there’s something for every stage of relationships - dating through to long term relationships. Practical advice… I’m finally going on a date tomorrow after stalling for years! Thanks Logan!

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A very entertaining spin on modern relationships

Logan tells all kinds of unconventional love stories in a very captivating way. She’s a total dreamer and the world definitely needs this kind of hopeful attitude to cheer up our dating lives.

Whether you’re single, dating or married, this is a comprehensive guide to dating and relationships. Backed by psychological theories and research, Logan tells all kinds of dating stories with the occasional pun/ dad-joke.

There’s definitely something for everyone in this book

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Super enlightening

After realizing I’m a hesitater for all these years, I finally setup my Hinge account the day I did the blindspot test, and had a first date the next day with the first guy I matched.
We have just finished our weekend getaway, which is the third date, and still wanna see each other again😊
Super grateful and I have already recommended this book to a bunch of friends haha.

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Brilliant book...listened to it 3 times!

This is absolutely perfect for anyone on dating sites...really brillant information and life changing advice and tips.

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A great guide

A great book on how to build a life with someone…from meeting, dating, through to marriage, kids and relationship goals. Some valuable information here

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