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Grace in the Gray

A More Loving Way to Disagree

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Grace in the Gray

By: Mike Donehey
Narrated by: Mike Donehey
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 By approaching disagreements in a more loving way and seeing the grace and good in those who hold differing viewpoints, you'll gain a deeper understanding of others, yourself, and God—from the bestselling author of Finding God's Life for My Will.

“Written with just the right amount of humor, reflection, and heart, Grace in the Gray shows us how to focus on the people we may disagree with more than focusing on the issue at hand.”—Mac Powell, Grammy Award–winning singer and songwriter

In a culture where constant offense and polarization dominate so many interactions, here is good news about a more productive way to disagree: God desires for us to become better at loving others . . . not better at debating.

Grace in the Gray helps us see the grace and good that’s often hidden by our own limited perspectives and assumptions. Through a collection of personal stories and biblical insights, Mike Donehey reveals a four-stage process to help you

1. subjectify those you’ve objectified
2. empathize with those you’ve vilified
3. humanize those you’ve deified
4. see why your posture is as essential as your position

In relationships, professional settings, and social situations, discover how to focus on the person standing before you more than the argument set against you. Doing so gives you the rare ability to face any conflict with better questions, kindness, and the calming posture of curiosity.

It all begins by learning to listen and lead with the most transformative substance the universe has ever known . . . God’s love. Christian Living Christianity Communication & Social Skills Conflict Resolution Personal Development Relationships

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“I’ve had the privilege of knowing Mike Donehey for many years now and have always felt that he is one of the most thoughtful lyricists and communicators I know. Mike is a thinker, but so much more than that, he is a lover of people. Written with just the right amount of humor, reflection, and heart, Grace in the Gray shows us how to focus on the people we may disagree with more than focusing on the issue at hand.”—Mac Powell, Grammy Award–winning singer and songwriter

“In a world that is seemingly more divided and polarized than ever, Mike stands out as a peacemaker. He has a unique gift of reaching across the divides and reminding people with his own vulnerability that we are all created and loved by the same God.”—Gareth and Ali Gilkeson, Rend Collective
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This is a fantastic book. Well written and engaging, but most importantly he is very honest and thoughtful, considering not only his point of view but expressing what you can learn when you talk less and listen more. Very grateful that this book exists, it offers great insight and a reminder to us all the heart of Jesus has big ears to listen to ALL his children... and if we already know that we are His children, we should have big listening ears and hearts too.

Humble, authentic, insightful, honest, great read!

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