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"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility

By: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD
Narrated by: Ramani S. Durvasula PhD
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It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.

“Don’t you know who I am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.

Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult, or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls.

Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity - insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders.

There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes.

It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

©2019 Ramani S. Durvasula, PhD (P)2019 Post Hill Press
Personality Disorders Psychology Relationships Narcissism Mental Health Emotionally Gripping Young Adult

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You won't regret buying this book

Loved this book. Wish I had found it 5 years ago. Dr Ramani did an excellent job at explaining in details about what sign/red flags to expect. I am certain more wiser now armed with the knowledge from this book. I am on the road to healing from narcissistic abuse /gaslighting. Perhaps one day we can all find happiness with the right person who won't take advantage of us.

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A must read for all empaths!

Definitive bible on how to detect and avoid narcissistic abuse. This book will save people’s lives. Thank the universe for dr Ramani.

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Wow. Just wow.

The most insightful book I have ever listened to, period. As someone who suffered from narcissistic parental abuse for 30 years, Dr. Ramani’s book helped me put the hundreds of pieces of the puzzle together, pieces that had been completely scattered all over the floor, house & neighborhood (and some I didn’t even know were pieces!). This book is a MUST listen for anyone even remotely affected by a narcissist in their life.

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Slow to start but worth the effort

The first chunk of the book was really drawn out, almost like a diagnostic manual. Once you hit Toxic Universe things really improve and the book becomes much more easier to listen to. This book contains many gems and hard truths on how to deal (and not deal) with narcissists. Beautifully read.

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Fantastic book!

If this book and valuable insight and advice was around years ago I would have saved myself a lot of headache. A fantastic book highly recommend!

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Interesting and Thought provoking

This book is quite interesting and thought provoking. I must say I dont believe that narcistic people cant change as I am an example of someone who has. I dont believe that completely cutting the narcisstic person out of your life is alway the best answer.

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Informative

Dr Ramani is one of the most accessible mental health practitioners who deal with personality disorders. This book provides and easy to understand description of how people can be impacted by those with a cluster B personality disorder and provides clear guidelines on how to minimise their damage

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Enlightening and knowledgeable.

I found this book incredibly insightful and interesting. She’s not only knowledgeable on the subject matter but gives very clear perspectives on how to managed being around these individuals.
You’re under no illusions as to what you’re dealing with when these people are around you.

She also shares how we can make changes to what we are creating in our world if we continue on the we are at present. This led to my own gut feelings being validated.

One of THE best books I have read so far on this subject and I even purchased the hard copy so I have a constant highlighted companion when I need to cross reference.

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