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Befriending Your Nervous System

Looking Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory

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Befriending Your Nervous System

By: Deborah Dana LCSW
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Harness the power of your nervous system to support healthy relationships and personal well-being.

Why is it that when you have a tense conversation with a boss, coworker, or partner, you feel like you’re staring down a charging rhinoceros? How is it that both situations cause a fight-or-flight response - and what can you learn from it?

As it turns out, the same neurological processes that cause unwanted stress can also be harnessed to summon relaxation, spaciousness, and equanimity. In Befriending Your Nervous System, clinician Deb Dana presents a simple, hopeful message: When you approach these subconscious processes with openness, mindful attention, and - above all - curiosity, you can gain the understanding necessary to shape their outcomes. Dana draws from the recent explosion of research in polyvagal theory, which posits that our most hardwired survival responses are regulated by the vagus nerve and can be consciously regulated through repeated exercises.

Here, you will learn:

  • How to interpret the subtle language of the nervous system
  • Present-moment awareness and the mechanics of choice
  • Your personal “protection-connection” equation
  • How to cultivate and savor positive nervous states
  • Why it’s paramount that you examine your internalized stories about the world
  • How to discover the stillness available in every moment
  • What actually nourishes your autonomic nervous system
  • The continuum of resilience
  • T­­he process of reciprocity, rupture, and repair
  • How to recognize physical cues of both safety and danger

Dana teaches how to work with the body’s innate ability to pick up social signals and cultivate “micro-moments” of safety, retraining your automatic responses to stress, conflict, and hardship. Including in-depth practices such as guided imagery, meditation, and ongoing self-inquiry, Befriending Your Nervous System offers a practical user’s manual for anyone seeking greater wellness, self-awareness, and emotional resilience.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2020 Deborah Dana, LCSW (P)2020 Sounds True
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Amazing book full of guided meditations

I’ve been looking for a book that has practice, not just all about technical analysis. And I finally found it. I have read many books on the science of the autonomic system and Polyvagal theory, but they didn’t have that much of an impact on my lifestyle or nervous system. This book is all about making change, and in the days that I’ve been listening to it, I feel like I have changed a lot. mostly short-term, but I will continue to listen to it and other books of this type and enjoy the path of transformation :-)

I would’ve given the story of five stars, but it has a small portion of unnecessary woo woo. If they were more humble, informed and open minded they would use terms like “I like to imagine”, “I feel like”, instead of saying “there’s a transmission between my nervous system in the mountains”.

But if you can ignore some of the cringe pseudoscience, most of the book is very soothing and relaxing

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Life changing

Learning about polyvagal theory has been so eye opening for me, and Deb Dana is so skilled at making this complex science practical. These ideas have changed the way I think about and respond to stress and my own trauma, and my body more generally. This is a great companion piece to her main book, anchored. Implementing even a few practices into daily life can radically change your physical and mental health. What a gift.

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7 hours with no substance. Very little explanation of concepts. constant reprise to 'imagine' by author made the listen imposdible to complete

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